Words have a powerful bearing on the way the child develops. In this book, you will find several instances where we have deliberately changed a number of expressions, and the parents need to be very aware of them for the sake of their child. Ascribing preconceived labels to the child is extremely demoralising for him or her.
Always address the child as how you would like him to be rather than how he is. For example, if you have a very shy child, then you either say, “You are very shy”, which does nothing to drive away the shyness, or you focus on his confidence and say, “You are a tremendously confident child” for every little achievement of his. Thus, by giving this kind of positive reinforcement, you will actually end up making him more confident and outgoing.
You should perceive the child the way you want him to be; address him that way by using words which have that kind of impact. The child will automatically become all that you want him to be. But for this, the parent needs to be tremendously aware and alert. Awareness comes from the silence of the mind. Silence comes from meditation. So, one who meditates automatically becomes aware and uses his words appropriately!