When parenting is a knack, it is a beautiful experience and the greatest joy. Unfortunately, when we ask parents, “Who gets to enjoy the children’s company more, the parents or the grandparents?”, almost all couples answer, “The grandparents” because “they have the time”.
This is true; however, there is a deeper truth to it. The deeper truth lies in the grandparents’ realisation that they had missed out on the joy of parenting in their own child-rearing days; so, this time around they don’t want to miss it and are making up for the time they didn’t spend with their own children.
I do not believe that you should wait for over twenty years for this realisation and the subsequent enjoyment. Instead, you should have fun parenting now, when you are new parents. Then, when you become grandparents, the joy of parenting will come as a real bonus.
A parent who is in tune with the child is always in awe of the child. He knows the fact that one’s child is one’s guru. You should be able to learn from your child. But, we as parents, always try to teach the child, instead. If parents were to reverse the roles and start observing their children and learning from them, instead of ‘teaching’ them, that alone would be proof that they are latching on to the real knack of parenting. Then one can proudly announce: “My child is my parent”.
If you truly learn from your children and truly surrender to their incredible innocence, spontaneity, enthusiasm, lovingness and unconditional trust, you will find that your child has all the qualities that all great men have.
If you are a true learner, one who has truly surrendered to the child, then you have mastered considerably the knack of parenting.