The quality of the seed determines the quality of the plant. The quality of the fruit or the flower will depend on the quality of the seed. If the seed is good, chances are the plant will give good fruits or flowers, and vice versa. Similarly, the seed for a great human being is planted when the parents decide why they want a child.
Most of the time no thought is given to “Why should we have a child?” It is said that most of the pregnancies are accidental and the upbringing of the child experimental. The seed for a human being is sown even before the mother becomes pregnant. The seed is planted when the parents plan to have a child.
It is very important that parents should have a clear answer to “Why they want to have a child?” Most parents do not think about it.
Preparation for conception
A child’s genes are formulated first in the minds of the mother and the father. What you visualise is what you bring forth into the world. When sex is the point of happiness which then leads to conception, the child so born will also be oriented only towards mere physical pleasure and will be self-gratifying and selfish. The demon kings Hiranyakashyapa and Hiranyaksha were born thus. Their mother had insisted on sex before sunset, from the great tapasvi, their father.
When togetherness and appreciation of each other are the dominant factors in a couple’s relationship, a beautiful, caring child is born.
When the child is born as a means of future security for the parents, the child will be calculating and afraid to share.
When the purpose of having a child is to fight a war (a case in question could be the situation in Palestine), the child will become a terrorist.
When the purpose of begetting a child is to bring joy to one and all, the child will be a playful Krishna.
When the purpose of having a child is to invite God into the family, a divine, great personality, like Sant Dnyaneshwar, Mukta bai, Meera bai or Chaitanya Mahaprabhu, is born.
When the child is born as an offering to the guru, a great sevak like Vivekananda or Gandhi is born. The child himself will become a Jagat Guru.
Pregnancy and preparation for the same.